If we refuse to change, our problems do not go away.

If we refuse to change, our problems do not go away. They instead get worse—even catastrophic. Perhaps our drinking or other addictions that once made life possible are now life-threatening. Perhaps our friendships or other intimate relationships seem empty. Our love aches for expression and cannot find a home. Perhaps depression or other emotional problems set in as we deny the sad reality of our abandoned child within and the neglect we endured long ago. We feel chronically unworthy of life’s blessings and nurturance.